How often do we ask others, “So how are you doing?” after we learn they’ve recently suffered the loss of a loved one, or been diagnosed with cancer, or have had painful shoulder surgery? We’re asking sincerely because we care. Some people would rather not speak about a troubling event or situation. Others, given the opportunity, may want to share their woes.
Whenever I walk the halls of JSL to visit with the residents, or call a friend or family member, my question, “How are you doing?” sometimes gets the response, “I’m fine.” But the weak obligatory smile followed by “thanks for asking,” tells a different story. Some folks want to share and if you ask, you should listen. We make real connections and can offer consolation more honestly, deeply, and truly.
