TALKING TO YOURSELF
“What did you say? I can’t hear you.”
“Nothing, I’m talking to myself.”
“Why can’t you tell me what you said?”
“Never mind. Talking aloud helps me cope.”
“…. Sigh…” ☹
It’s normal to feel worried and fearful during these challenging times. The news can bring about uncertainty, anger, worry, and fear, especially when considering the potential impacts on us and our families.
So, how do we cope with and manage these feelings? We can take some time to digest information rather than reacting impulsively. Educating ourselves by listening to various voices on podcasts or subscribing to Substacks, many of which fill my inbox daily, helps me feel informed and, in turn, provides a sense of relief.
We must try to verify facts across multiple sources to gain a balanced perspective. Once we have done that, we can take cleansing breaths and focus on what we can control. After all, uncertainty breeds anxiety. We can practice mindfulness, engage in meditation, or take up any number of calming activities to center ourselves.
In the face of external stress, we can regain a sense of calm by taking action. This might mean contacting our representatives, supporting organizations, or joining groups that are proactive in standing up for human rights. We can stay informed but be mindful of overexposure to news, as it can escalate our anxiety.
I’ve been setting boundaries on how much news I consume each day, balancing it with activities that help me stay grounded. For me, cooking is a therapeutic outlet. Even when I’m worried, experimenting with new recipes and cooking them is something I find deeply relaxing. Cooking is my yoga. Walking and listening to music clears my head. Spending time with residents, colleagues, family and friends truly brings me joy. Talking about our worries and listening to each other can provide clarity and reassurance.
Even in these challenging and ever-changing times, we can still find positive stories and acts of kindness wherever we are. Seeking these out is the antidote to negative energy. I constantly remind myself aloud, “It’s okay to feel anxious,” but what matters most is how I respond. We can stay informed, prioritize self-care, and engage in positive actions that empower us. Finding what works for YOU is key.
That brings to mind the phrase, “What, me worry?” It’s famously associated with Alfred E. Neuman, the mascot of MAD Magazine. His goofy, carefree expression and mischievous smile embody a relaxed, almost comically indifferent attitude toward the world’s troubles. While the phrase suggests a humorous “no worries” approach, it’s also a reminder not to take everything too seriously, even when the world feels like it’s falling apart. We will get through this, and worrying never helps.
Deep breaths… We can find more ways to cope. We can find something to laugh about. Speaking of which, I recently came across an older comedian on Instagram, “The Best of Andy Huggins” He delights me with his humor. https://www.instagram.com/andyhugginscomedy/
Laughter is a powerful tool, especially when life feels overwhelming. Finding humor in the small things and the everyday absurdities can really lighten our mood. Laughter breaks the tension and brings much-needed light into our lives. It’s about embracing the absurdity of it all and finding joy in the ordinary. Laughter brings us together.
We must support each other during this time. We have so much to mourn, but we also know the value of humor. So, find time to laugh, to love, and to dance.
Shabbat Shalom.
